How to Keep the Marriage Intact

3/08/2019 , 45 Comments

Biblical way of living as a married couple

Infidelity destroys relationships. The moment that a husband becomes unfaithful to his wife, it is inevitable that what used to be a “very sweet” relationship will turn into a sour and bitter one. And if not addressed properly at the soonest possible time, it could cause havoc to the whole family.

But why do husbands become unfaithful to their wives? Why do they leave their wives and look for another?

No husband in his right mind would abandon the woman whom he wooed very patiently for years for no reason at all. The fact that he did everything to win her hand in marriage only means that he has committed himself to her and wants a life-long relationship with her. This is why it is quite saddening to hear stories of wives whose husbands had abandoned them and are now embracing other women.

If we are going to make a simple analysis on why a husband leaves his wife in favor of another woman, we will realize that it stems only from a very simple reason: he feels that his wife has changed, that she is no longer the woman that he fell in love with – someone who was well-groomed, very caring and thoughtful, and always sweet-smelling. Because now, after several years of marriage and after bearing three children, his wife has lost her charm. She hardly takes a bath; she often forgets to brush her teeth; she doesn’t even comb and fix her hair anymore; and she seldom changes her dress. In other words, she has neglected attending to her personal grooming and hygiene. As a result, her husband gets disgusted.

A wife, even if she has mothered half a dozen children, should see to it that she remains adorable in the eyes of her husband. She should always be sweet-smelling, that is why she needs to bathe more frequently, in the same manner that she should also wash as often what certain television commercials refer to as the “feminine area.” A woman may lose her sweet scent if she neglects proper hygiene, or if she sweats a lot after performing certain household chores. So, instead of a sweet scent, she emits an unpleasant odor.

In Isaiah 3:24 it says, 
And it shall come to pass that instead of sweet smell there shall be stink...
That was God’s curse to the Israelite women. Instead of a sweet smell, there would be rottenness and stink. But a woman who is not under a curse has a sweet smell. So that your husband won’t leave you, make sure that you maintain your sweet smell. By nature, a man looks for a sweet-smelling woman. If your husband no longer finds that sweet smell in you because you do not brush your teeth and take a bath anymore, chances are, he’ll look for a more fragrant and more attractive woman.

Do not forget to show simple gestures of affection and care like serving him a cup of coffee, or giving him a little massage when he comes home from work. Those simple acts will make him feel how much you love him, and he will realize that he will commit a very great foolishness if he will betray a loving, caring, and adorable wife like you.

But most of all, the best safeguard to protect marital relationships is prayers to God. Actually, many marital relationships do not last because they lack in prayers to God. Husband and wife should live a prayerful life. They should always pray to God to protect their family and to keep it intact. And it is best that both husband and wife should remain steadfast in their service to God.

Always remember, God is merciful, and it is His will that husband and wife should live together until death.

45 comments:

  1. Amen❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

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  2. Very well said. This is a reality. Thanks be to God

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  3. Thanks be to God for this article.

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  4. THANKS BE TO GOD FOR SUCH LOVELY MESSAGE,THANK GOD AND OUR LORD JESUS FOR GIVING THE MCGI A SUCH PREACHERS IN OUR TIME

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  5. Reading this really explain it's very details on how to win the married life as a Christian. Thanks be to God for this😊

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  6. husbands should give consideration to their wife. They should help and understand the hardwork of their wife and erase the mentality that their wife is just in the house and do nothing.

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  7. This definitely helps tons of married women, who have troubled relationships.

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  8. To God be the Glory❤ #LittleThingsMeanALot
    #BatheBrushAndPray

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  9. A very well said. Thanks Be To GOD :)

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  10. Love can move mountains❤️. Have good communication, both of you must be open to each other. Sometimes a small argument can be lead to a big fight because of a misunderstanding on both husband and wife.

    If sometimes you can feel neglected, not appreciated and misunderstood by your actions,you always keep in mind that maybe I've done something that he can feel it too at times,and during those times he or she stood by your side,and when time comes that he/she needed you the most, don't leave, just stay and be with him/her.Understand the situation. If she feel weak and you are his/her strength, hold tight, have faith
    hope and LOVE.In God's help and mercy and in His will that love you felt before will comes back especially when you realized all the things you've been through together.

    Indeed have a prayerful life. Thanks be to God for a good read like this.

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  11. Correct ❤️❤️❤️ Thanks be to God.

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  12. Be an MCGI and know the secret of a Christian family life living till death do they part...

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  13. Had I know what is true Christian family life, I would have been living a family life with joy and happiness with my one and only...

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  14. Thanks be to God for His sound advice. ♥️

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  15. Great message and a guide for couples. Thanks be to God for the reminder.

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  16. It is wise that God be at the center of the relationship of husband and wife. Followed personal grooming and hygiene and the intimate affection on both husband and wife. Thank's be to God for this Blog..

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  17. a very informative article and a must read for every couple.

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  18. very nice blog Mr. Controversy, I do agree that taking a bath, looking and smelling pleasant in front of my husband is extremely important. I have learned it from you, that is why even if I have 3 kids already, although I don't wear perfumes, but I make it a point to take a bath always and brush my teeth. Haha..
    of course, aside from that, prayer is utmost importance. I always pray to God when my husband have a fight, I ask God to help me to be a good wife , a good mom and a good Christian. Praise God all these things I have learned from you. There will be struggles and trials, but God is stronger than all of those things.
    i pray that God will continue to give you strength Mr. Controversy, I have been in the congregation for 16 years now, thank God, but I still feel that i still have a lot to hear and learn from you. May you live a long and healthy life so that you can continue to serve more people.

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  19. Very helpful specially for those who have an issues with thier partners.

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  20. thanks be to God for this wonderful topic.

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  21. To Love is coupled with responsibility!
    To God be the Glory!

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  22. Job2:10 Tagapin natin kung ano man ang dumarating sa atin buhay may pamilya maging maganda o pangit, ay huwag natin taligdan ang atin tungkulin bilang haligi ng tahanan at mahalin at ingatan ang lahat ng myembro ng tahanan. Salamat sa Dios

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  23. Amen. I shared this to my women group.

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  24. This is indeed very helpful to those who really forget how couples became attracted to each other

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  25. God is greater than all your problems but your relationship is steadfast
    No more take a risk problem is not a easy but if you affected by small problem can broke.

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  26. The reason for the separation or destruction of a relationship is that they can not satisfy by the love of her/she

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  27. Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.

    1 Peter 3:7
    English Standard Version

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  28. God's plan is always the best. Sometimes the process is painful and hard. But don't forget that when god is silent, He's doing something for you.

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  29. Being marriage give you the opportunity to share your thoughts and emotions even when other sentiments may fall short. Marriage can intact if both of you have faith and trust to each other and live with god.

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  30. ... and steadfast as one in hearing and abide to the word of God.

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  31. Lahat nga ay nagkasala sa isip at sa gawa. Labanan ang hilig ng laman, pairalin ang espiritu ng Dios. Mahalin ang Kanyang salita at ang karumihan ay hindii iiral.

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  32. Very ispirable blog. Even I'm not married yet but I can relate. 😊😊

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  33. What a valuable information..
    Glory to God..😇😇😊😊

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  34. Thanks be to God for this article.



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  35. Muy bien👍yo siempre e pensado sobre los matrimonios que ya continuación día a día gracias a Dios

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  36. Naniniwala po ako sa lahat ng turo niyo kahit hindi pa ako kapatid. Masakit lang na ang asawa ko na kapatid ang nanloko at nambabae. 😭😭😭

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  37. Honestly Brother Eli because of your preaching you gave me the courage to preserved my marriage when I was at my point of giving up....THANK YOU for lifting me up.

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